My Year So Far

This is how I've felt all year - espeically at work - so I bought the comic book and put it on my office wall. A reminder that you can get out of anything.

Savran Pogrom

Growing up, my grandmother told me stories of fleeing Ukraine in the wake of the Russian revolution to the relative safety of Bucharest, Romania. My grandmother's story was that during a pogrom in their home village of Savran, Ukraine she was hidden in an oven to avoid injury. The mental image of my grandmother in an oven puzzled me: was it like the oven in my New Jersey kitchen? Or the ovens of the Nazi camps?

Either way, I didn't have a clear idea of just what a pogrom was. A few years ago a gentleman sent me an account of a series of pogroms in Savran that occurred shortly before my grandmother's birth at the hands of the followers of Kozakov, Petliura, and Denikin. It is a painful account: translated below. The name "Bershadsky" is mentioned - and I believe he is a cousin.

The Attack on SAVARN in Podolia County

After the Passover 1917, a group of bandits came to Savran to raid the town, and started attacking and raiding people homes,  “AGUDAT HAMAGEN” the protective group, scared them away. One of the bandits was killed. The Christian town people  retaliated, and killed the head of “AGUDAT HAMAGEN,” Dr. Klein, and his father-in-law, Liev Alters, and attacked many Jewish homes and stores.

From there on, there was no rest for the Jews of Savran: Kozakov's troops raided Savran. Kozakov called the two village rabbis and demanded a 200,000 Rubles  “contribution” and made them responsible for all that would happen if this would not be paid within one hour. The town Jews collected the money, but failed to do so in an hour, so Kozakov left the town with the two rabbis, captive, and killed them in a horrific way, torturing them to death, making them eat rotten eggs and burning their beards while singing praises for him. After crossing the river he caught three more Jews, an old man, and the two sons of Moyshe Barshedsky and killed them as well.

The 200,000 rubles where given to the widows and orphans of the rabbis by the town  people.

After a while the troops of Danikin started to come to Savarn, the first group caused no harm, and only asked for food supplies and clothes, but after came Kazaks from those troops, and after taking what they wanted (e.g., food clothes) they took a respected man, Shimon Elizepan, and whipped him fifty lashes just for saying: ”We can’t leave a Jewish town without leaving any  mark passing through.”  They laughed and the man fell to an illness for three months after this.

And when the Danikinians were killed of the hands of the Soviet troops, they came back to Savarn and slaughtered the entire Jewish town folks,  it was Saturday (morning of Shabbat) that the first faction came of fleeing Danikinians  and demanded “contribution” but then the town bells started , and they fled. But at noon came the second faction, and started the slaughter any Jew caught by the faction was killed on the spot. Old people were butchered, little children were torn to pieces which were thrown to the faction's dogs, every women between 12 and 70 years of age were raped  and then killed in many horrific ways.

At first the Danikinians  tortured their victims to get word of the hiding places where they stashed their belongings. After taking their possession they  also took their lives. Thus, they took 200,000 rubles out of the old man BOYKES hands and promised when he gives the money they will let him live, after taking his money, they put him against the wall pour oil on him, and torched him alive, counting the  money in front of  his eyes, while the poor soul  was  screaming  and burning to death. Then they killed his son.

SHAUL (SAUL) CHERNOAUS son, a five year old, they found under the bed, hiding , they asked him ”Where is your father?” "I don’t know" the boy said. Immediately they cut him to pieces and threw his remains to the dogs.

Israel Arages' wife, a very beautiful and graceful women, they took, raped, and decapitated.

 

The faction was accompanied by many of the important Christian community leaders which led them to the hiding places of the Jews.

All the Jews were killed by crude weapons. One Jew plead to be killed by a rifle, and got this answer: “Every bullet is now very expensive,  pay us the bullet price, and you will get killed this way.”

The killing lasted three days,  and after ten more days, more Danikinian factions came and again butchered, raped, robbed and pillaged the town Jews. The casualties toll came to approximately 800 people. Many of Savarn Jews fled to the nearing  villages where they died of cold or hunger. In Savarn few Jewish families stayed, but they were also harassed and driven out by the Christian families.

The state of these families is evident by this fact:

A Jewish student from Savarn traveled to Odessa with two Christians, and they stayed in an inn together over night, were they stole his money: 35,000 rubles. When the Soviets learned of this, they came to the hotel, checked the Christians satchels and found counterfeit money in their possession  and guns. They were of course arrested. After a few days a poster was hanged on a wall in Savarn :

“Communist Yids:

If you will not return our people, we will slaughter you all. Petliura slaughtered you all and didn’t finish; Danikinians slaughtered you all and didn’t finish;  we will slaughter you all - and will not leave even a baby in his crib.

The Alliance of Destroyers.”

(These are the words of Savran refugees.)

The Attack on Savran in Podolia County. from "Hebrew Yearbook for Autobiography, Ethnography and Folklore - Reshumoth" (Volume 3). Berlin 1923 (Moriya – Devir publishers, Jerusalem –Berlin). Pages 425 - 426. 

I am grateful to my cousin Ruby for translating this horrific document. 

IAJGS 2013 - First Reflection

It's been more than a year since I've blogged here. No time like the present to start again.

I've always wanted to attend a Jewish genealogy conference but always used cost and logistics as rationales for staying home. No excuse this time - the International Association of Jewish Genealogy Societies annual conference is in Boston this year!

I've been an avid genealogist for almost fifteen years and have a long list of personal puzzles I've grappled with. I've even solved a few. I've occasionally even supported a project with time and funds. But it has been a more or less solitary affair.

After a few days at the conference, it is clear to me that I need to be a more active contributor to this community. The question I need to ask myself: how, given all of my other commitments. This is a great problem to have - there are too many ways I'd like to be involved!

Mystery Family Photo

Help me identify this photo!

This photo was sent to me recently by a cousin, and I'm trying to figure out how the family is related to me. On the reverse is the name and address (NYC) of my great-grandfather (Meyer Goldner) - the address he occupied between 1914 when he arrived in America and the mid 1920s when the family moved to Brooklyn. The family was based just north of Iasi, Romania, in the village of Bivolari. I have considerable information on the extended Goldner family, but less about my great-grandmother's family (the Fibish or Fybish family). I'm hoping to figure out which part of the family this is within my extended based on the relative ages of the individuals. The photo is larger than 8.5 x 11 inches, and is mounted to a cardboard frame. I would appreciate any help to figure out...

1. What are the ages of the individuals?
2. When/where do you believe this photo was taken? I'm guessing it was from Romania and was sent to Meyer in New York around 1915, but it could be earlier.
3. Any clues about the family based on clothing, furniture, etc?
4. How do you think these folks are related to each other. Grandparents seated, three daughters (one married) and their granddaughter? Or two daughters, a son, and a daughter-in-law? 

I've posted it to JewishGen Viewmate. I'd appreciate any help you can provide!

This hits home.

http://imgs.xkcd.com/comics/family_decals.png

Grandma's Obit

I had the privilege of writing my grandmother's obituary when she passed away last month. After working through my family's genealogy for the past 12 years, I've read lots of obits. Here's what I wrote:

Rose Sarah Telles nee Broitman passed away peacefully on July 30, 2011 in West Orange, NJ. She had just celebrated her 93^rd birthday. Born in Savran, Ukraine in 1918, the Broitman family traveled through Bucherest, Toronto, and Philadelphia before settling in Brooklyn in 1929. She married the love of her life, Sam Telles, in 1938 and raised three children.

After Sam’s passing in 1972, Rose moved to northern New Jersey, living first in Lake Hopatcong and then—from 1977 to 2003—in White Meadow Lake. She is best known for the many years she took care of children, first in her home, then at the White Meadow Temple nursery school, and finally at the Chabad Early Learning Center in White Meadow Lake. She spent her final years at the Daughters of Israel nursing facility in West Orange, NJ.

Rose was predeceased by her husband Sam Telles, parents Abram and Ida (Darish) Broitman, sister Anita and her husband Sam Schechtman, brother Aaron and his wife Fanny (Fuchs) Broitman, and brother Joseph Broitman. She is survived by her three devoted children: Phyllis Badanes of Brooklyn, NJ; Stephen & Rochelle Weil of Del Ray Beach, FL; and Marty & Ina (Schrank) Telles of Montville, NJ. Rose is remembered by her six grandchildren (Shira, Eric, Shawn, Jennifer, Selene, & Randi), seven great-grandchildren (Sam, Jonah, Jacob, Sophia, Asher, Paul, & Joss), and many nieces and nephews. Rose is also remembered by the hundreds of families she touched as their children’s honorary Bubbie Shoshanah.

The memorial service will take place at Bernheim-Apter-Kreitzman Suburban Funeral Chapel (68 Old Short Hills Rd, Livingston, NJ) at noon on Monday, August 1. Interment to follow at Beth Moses Cemetery, Pinelawn, Long Island. Shiva will be observed at the home of her son, Martin Telles (14 Baccarat Ct., Montville, NJ) immediately after return from cemetery (5:30 – 9:00 pm) and from Tuesday through Thursday (2:00 – 9:00 pm).

In lieu of flowers, donations in Rose’s honor should be made to American Cancer Society.

But, when we brought it to the funeral home, they said it would be prohibitively expensive to publish it as is. So, I quickly cut it down. In the published version, my Uncle Marty became "Mary"! You can find it here.

Rose Sarah Telles (nee Broitman) passed away peacefully on July 30, 2011, in West Orange, N.J. Rose was born in Savran, Ukraine, in 1918 and moved to Brooklyn in 1929. She lived in White Meadow Lake, N.J., from 1977 to 2003 and spent her final years in West Orange. Rose was predeceased by her husband, Sam Telles; parents, Abram and Ida (Darish) Broitman; sister, Anita and her husband, Sam Schechtman; brother, Aaron and his wife, Fanny (Fuchs) Broitman and brother, Joseph Broitman. She is survived by her three devoted children, Phyllis Badanes of Brooklyn, N.Y.; Stephen and Rochelle Weil of Delray Beach, Fla., and Marty and Ina (Schrank) Telles of Montville, N.J. Rose is remembered by her six grandchildren, Shira, Eric, Shawn, Jennifer, Selene and Randi; seven great-grandchildren, Sam, Jonah, Jacob, Sophia, Asher, Paul and Joss and many nieces, nephews and friends. In lieu of flowers, donations in Rose's honor should be made to the American Cancer Society .

Published in Star-Ledger on August 3, 2011

The obituary was also published in the New Jersey Jewish News

Rose Telles

Rose Telles (Broitman), 93, of West Orange died July 30, 2011. Born in Savron, Ukraine, she lived in Bucharest, Romania; Toronto; Philadelphia; Brooklyn; Lake Hopatcong; and White Meadow Lake before moving to West Orange in 2004.

Mrs. Telles cared for children as the honorary “Bubbie Shoshanah,” first in her home, then at White Meadow Temple nursery school in Rockaway, and finally at the Chabad Early Learning Center in White Meadow Lake.

She was a lifetime member of White Meadow Temple and a Hadassah Woman of Valor.

Predeceased by her husband, Sam, she is survived by two daughters, Phyllis Badanes of Brooklyn and Rochelle Weil of Delray Beach, Fla.; her son, Marty of Montville; six grandchildren; and seven great-grandchildren.

Services were held Aug. 1 with arrangements by Bernheim-Apter-Kreitzman Suburban Funeral Chapel, Livingston. Memorial contributions may be made to the American Cancer Society.

I hope this was a fitting tribute for future genealogists to find!

A Eulogy for my Grandmother

Eulogy for my Grandmother

Rose Sarah Telles (1920 1918 - 2011)

Aug 1 2011

If you asked my grandmother when she was born, she might have said that she was born one July day in 1920 in Odessa. Well, that’s not quite right. Her sister—ten years her senior—used to tell Grandma Rose that she was born in the winter, not summer. And 1920 wasn’t really the right year; since she didn’t have a birth certificate, she could choose her year of birth – either to make her younger or eligible for social security. And it wasn’t Odessa. She was born in a village 130 miles from Odessa!

This ambiguity about her origins typified my grandmother; she was totally unencumbered by logic and specifics. What did it matter? She was here, filling the room with laughter and love. She had a story to tell and had a talent for finding someone to listen, whether you knew her or not! Even now, across the country, there are thousands of people she met in airports or restaurants who know about her Sammy, her father’s fruit stand, or her opinions about worker’s rights!

Reizel Sura Broitman was born in 1918 in a small shtetl in Ukraine called Savran. Her father was a successful lumber merchant—successful enough that her oldest siblings, Anita and Aaron, were well educated in the gymnasium. Fate wasn’t as kind to her; she was born in the thick of the Russian revolution, with pogroms terrorizing the Jewish communities throughout the Pale of Settlement. As a young child—my son’s age—her family fled Savran to points west. They gave up everything to leave, suffering poverty in Bucherest before taking the train through Serbia to Trieste, Italy and onto the steamship S.S. Wilson to Halifax in 1924. Five years later, after stops in Toronto (where her brother Joe was born) and Philadelphia, they finally settled in Brooklyn, her home for the next 48 years.

She once told me that she met my grandfather—Sam Telles—because she was walking down the street and overheard a group of people talking in Yiddish about communism. Surprised to be hearing Yiddish—ridiculous, considering the number of Yiddish speakers in that part of Brooklyn—she stayed to listen. She saw him and fell in love. She worked as a garment worker and her brother was very involved with the garment union. The need for worker’s rights to protect the everyman was key to her philosophy, and this fire for equality stayed with her throughout her life. I remember one story of her, late in her 70s, chastising a group of seniors in Rockaway for their lack of support for the school budget. Didn’t they know how important it was to the children?

My grandmother married my grandfather in 1938. She swore, paradoxically, that they were married by a very religious rabbi and that they didn’t have a ketubah! (Incidentally, I was amazed to find the ketubah in her personal papers a few years ago. Turns out they were legit!). They raised three children while my grandfather worked at his family’s fur store. They also helped raise a granddaughter and took care of my great-grandparents. Through the depression, war, family squabbles, and serious illness they worked hard to keep a family together.

My grandfather’s 1972 death was the shock of her life – a shock that she never overcame and never forgot to remind you about. But, despite of her seeming inability to move forward with her life, she picked up and left Brooklyn to be closer to her daughter and son in New Jersey. I am so lucky to have had her living just a few doors from me growing up, taking care of me when I was sick, making salmon croquets and once baked zwi-bach, and playing Chinese checkers with me on demand. She was a remarkable storyteller and always gave her shoulder to me to rest my head – even when I was too tall for that to be comfortable. She turned her love of children into a career, first watching a handful of kids in her house to fill the gaps between the end of the school day and the end of the work day, and then working as an aide in two local Jewish nursery schools. But she wasn’t just any day care aide – it is rare for one person to have so many kids call her grandma or Mora Shoshana. And for all her love of other people’s children, her pride and adoration of her own children (Phyllis, Shelly & Steve, Marty & Ina), grandchildren (Shira, Eric, Jennifer, Selene, Randi, and me) and great-grandchildren (Sam, Jonah, Jacob, Sophia, Asher, Paul & Joss) was boundless.

This is the woman that many of you knew. Loving, kvetchy, thoughtful, illogical, and incredibly generous. She would go out of her way to drive past my house growing up, and then grill my mother about the reason for the particular non-standard placement of cars in the driveway to make sure that an out of place vehicle didn’t mean someone was at home sick. And no amount of pleading would convince her that you really didn’t want to take a banana or hardboiled egg as a memento of your visit with her. Whenever I spoke to her, she only wanted to know what developmental milestone my children were reaching.

My grandmother embraced her Jewish identity, although she became a regular temple goer relatively late in life. She was a Hadassah Woman of Valor, a passionate supporter of Israel (anyone here buy a tree from her?), and a lifetime member of White Meadow Temple. She didn’t miss a Shabbas service for many years, always sitting in the same seat - next to my grandfather’s memorial placard. I’m heartbroken but happy to know that the placard below his will no longer say “reserved” – that they are together again, the way she wanted it to be.